Editorial: Father’s Day 2025

In America, many families have, over several generations, seen a sea of change in how masculinity is defined. The changes in the way fathers have taken active roles in raising children — not all fathers, but many, compared to not so long ago — have increased families’ emotional well-being. The change in attitude is also a boon to the men, bringing them closer to their children.

Old ways of living die hard, however. The Oxford English Dictionary has reported that one of the most searched words over the past few years is “toxic,” and one of the words most associated with the word, according to the dictionary, was “masculinity.”

We see the last gasps of this idea of man-as-caveman, for example, in leaders who refused to wear masks at the height of the pandemic because in their absurd logic, it made them look weak. Better to infect others with a deadly virus than have other manly men call you a wimp.

But the words of Bob Dylan still apply to men who sense times are changing: “Please heed the call / Don’t stand in the doorway / Don’t block up the hall/ For he who gets hurt / Will be he who has stalled …” This weekend, we’ll celebrate the men who know that the role of father is their most serious and consequential duty; the men who provide encouragement and support to their children by setting good examples, helping them when they stumble or fall and showing them love every day.

We have a friend who told us a story about his father. He and his younger brother were never embraced by him, although his sisters were always hugged. The boys got firm handshakes on greeting and saying goodbye.

But then the younger son, after reconciling a disagreement with his father, quickly embraced him. When our friend came home, his father threw his arms around him and gripped him tenderly. He went to his younger brother later and said, “What did you do to the old man? He can’t keep his arms off me.”

Happy Father’s Day.